WHAT A HUSBAND NEEDS FROM A WIFE IS NOT SEX.




Sex is an important element in marriage and until there is sexual intercourse between a husband and a wife, the marriage is not yet spiritually recognised. This shows how important sex is in marriage.When you look at how agressive men are towards sex you may think that what a man needs from a woman is sex.

Of course, if he has not married you yet or he does not really intend to marry you what he will need from you is nothing above your body. But if he really intends to marry you or if
you guys are already married sex is never what he needs from you.

Many young girls think because they are sexually active and experience they will easily be married and have their husbands loving them. And when a man approaches for marriage they think the greatest asset they have to show the man is sex.

Others also think once they are giving out their bodies it means they are giving out the best for which reason they will be chosen above all.

But submission is what men need, not sex. It is time for our young ladies to know that when a man is ready to marry he will not look out for a woman who will satisfy his sex drive but a woman who
will submit herself to him.

Excuse my language,
"every woman has female organs but not every woman has humility." So when you are a humble woman, you are an expensive jewelry. And a man of integrity will fear to lose you.

What does the Bible say, "wife, submit to your husband." The reason is that a man's true love
goes out only for a woman who is submissive.

Sadly, many youngs ladies in our days call submission as "control." And you will hear them
saying in tiny romantic voices, "As for me I don't want any man to control me oh." If you don't want to submit don't think of marriage because no man in his right sense will offer his love to a woman whose heart is higher than his height, no matter how short he may be. When a woman bows her knee before a man, the man will automatically bow his heart before her love. And love her sincerely. It is submission that truly makes you a romantic wife.

So be the African queen you want to be but when it comes to dealing with your husband, play the role of a humble maid. Don't forget that it is the spirit of humility that has caused many maids to hijack their mistresses' husbands. Be your man's queen and be his maid also.I wish you all the best.

Source: http://www.nairaland.com/2832973/what-husband-needs-wife-never

Evolution of Marriage – A Tanzania Perspective

Salam wakuu,

Leo nimemkumbuka mwalimu wangu wa somo la siasa enzi hizo kabla ya kubadilishwa na kuitwa uraia. Alikuwa ananiambia katika 'Ndoa' tamaduni mbili zikikutanishwa moja yenye nguvu huimeza iliyodhaifu.

Ili imezwe lazima mmoja aidharau yakwake na kuitukuza ya mwenzie akaniambia wazazi wako na babu zako walishikilia sana tamaduni zao, kuanzia lugha, mila na desturi lakini ninyi mmeanza kuruhusu kumezwa.

Hoja yangu ni ipi haswa.Kwa sasa ndoa zetu zipo mashakani kufikia umri wa ndoa za waliotutangulia hasa wazazi (wenye ndoa) waliishi kwa kuelewa ndoa ililindwa na utamaduni wao wakauenzi

Kwa sasa wanandoa wanaishi nyumba moja kama wako hostel tu na sio familia. Kisa wameruhusu umagharibi kuumeza utamaduni wao.

Mama anadai haki zote za ubaba, na kinyume chake. Hakuna kiwiliwli wote wamekuwa vichwa. Sheria zetu hasa ile ya ndoa ya 1977 nayo bado iliendelea kuegemea kwenye traditional culture. tuna vitu ambavyo hata kama tutaiga umagharibi hatuwezi vipindisha it's norms... mfano: mwanaume haolewi anaoa na ndio mtoa talaka. Hii ina maana gani? Yeye ndio kichwa cha ndoa. Ikitokea akawa Mario ni kosa la kimfumo kichwani mwake.

Siku hizi tuanishi., Ulimwengu wa Kambare kila mtu ana masharubu,mi sishangai sana nnavyoona wanaume tunaoa sio kwa kupenda bali kwa kuridhishwa kwa muda mfupi na vijitabia vya mchumba ili umuoe,na wengi tunaona ufahari sana kutangaza ndoa maana sio mchezo hiyo attention yake ukweni we ndio unakuwa topic+na mchumba ndio kama mlenda na tonge kwa ufupi ndoa siku hizi ni kama hobi tu.Hazina muelekeo wa kimaisha.

Wakati wazee huwa wansaherehekea miaka 50 ya ndoa, siku hizi Utakuta vijana wanasheherekea mwaka mmoja wa ndoa....!

Ndoa za ki Afrika....zimeharibiwa na tamaduni za kigeni na tamthilia.

Kubadilishwa kwa Jando na kuwa Send off(ambazo hazifai).
Upande wa wanaume na wazazi

Yote hayo ni kwa sababu ya kuupoteza utamaduni sasa kama kijana katahiriwa na mama yake kwa nini asiwe marioo? Huwezi kukuta mwanaume alie enda jando na kula kisu bila ganzi akawa marioo

Wanaume wengi nao wamepoteza Sifa za kuwa kichwa cha nyumba. unaishi kwenye nyumba hujui pango ni bei gani, unafungua fridge unatoa beer hujui mke wako ametoa wapi pesa. Hata wife akikwambia anakwenda seminar huna hata nguvu ya kuuliza utakaa muda gani.


Inasikitisha. Tubadilike watanzania. Mmoja mmoja na kama jamii kwa ujumla.

Source: Jamiiiforums